Can’t muster up the energy to check your online account?
Read the text message from your date late night and rolled your eyes?
Posted a rant on the woes of the opposite sex on your FB page?
You might be suffering from dating burnout.
What’s dating burnout? Put simply it’s when you just don’t give a good damn about going out, being charming for this week’s WAM (Weak Ass Man - Thanks Greg Behrendt compliments of Oprah's Lifeclass) or crazy bitch.
Of course that's not true of all men or women, but when you start over generalizing the opposite sex into negative categories, that's a sure sign that you have
Ok, I wanted to call
this Waiting for Superman until I realized it was a documentary on the
education system in DC - great piece BTW. Then I realized that Thor and his
“enchanted hammer” might be a far better example. And at the very least Chris
Hemsworth - cast as Thor - is dreamy!
I am enamored with
superheroes! I always have been. I must have been one in a former
life, I’m sure of it! I mean think about it - they have perfect bodies,
amazing powers, deep sensitive personalities, and even the brooding bad boy or
nerdy types are hot!
My rant on online dating profiles . . .
As much as
some of us hate to admit it, online dating is here to stay. Many companies
have great success rates for relationships and marriage, and I'm glad
technology has the ability to aid some of us in finding true love.
love also still eludes many of us involved in online dating.
the biggest advantages these sites supposedly offer is volume. You can
sort through five or more supposedly “highly qualified leads” – in some
Being single during the holidays can be a challenge.
There’s such an emphasis on family, couples, and romance that it's hard for
some singles to be well . . . single.
All of the focus on couples, romance, proposals, and family tradition can summon feelings of loneliness, especially if your break up or divorce is
recent. Not to mention all of the social pressure from family and friends
to "bring someone" to the diner, the party, the game, the lunch, or
the brunch. Or worse well-meaning friends who think you should “be out there”
and try to fix you up at their holiday party – ugh no escape.
I am not a politician. I am not even remotely interested in politics or even well versed in the issues. But as a coach, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a lover, I know conflict. I know when two sides don’t agree, the tendency to blame, shame, coerce, threaten, demand, command, pout, and bully the other party into submission increases exponentially.
This is the reason people get fired, breakup, divorce, create civil demonstrations, and ultimately go to war.
With the divorces rates being so high in the US (first marriage is 41% to 50%; the rate after second marriage is from 60% to 67% and the rate in America for 3rd marriage are from 73% to 74%*), you wonder why people bother getting married at all. Is it really as rewarding and fulfilling as they say and worth the risk and heart ache? Or is it just something we do because it’s always something we’ve done as a society?
In a recent article in the NYTimes called Breaking Free from the Nesting Doll a woman asks herself should she marry a man out of obligation.
No I didn't forget to write. I had a minor computer problem that has since been remedied. However, it was just another example of how if you don't take care of something, that something won't take care of you.
Some lessons learned . . .
Good Health is a lifestyle, not an event. So many of us try to lose weight, stay in shape, get to our annual checkups etc. Most of us deal with these activities like events in time. This “summer” I am going to lose weight.
When the sex is HOT and the relationship is . . . NOT!
Ok, perhaps I am giving in to sensationalism just a bit, BUT I am also speaking the truth! How many of you ladies have stayed with a man because –the sex was hot! I mean that man could wield his penis like Thor wields his hammer! You’ve never screamed so loud! You’ve never had that many orgasms. You’ve can’t believe how long he spent going down on you. You’ve never been with such a primal, generous lover in your life!
So here's the thing ladies . . . if you don't feel good about yourself, you will not feel good about a man or any relationship you create. You will not value yourself and what you have to offer. You will accept poor behavior because you do not feel good about you. You do not feel you deserve to be treated well.
Vitality is not just about looking good, it's about feeling vital from the inside out. Feeling the vital energy of your femininity. Knowing you are a radiant beautiful creature who doesn't deserve second class treatment from anyone.
One of the best things in life is that you can take any day, and call a "do-over"! Remember when we were kids and you'd started something, then mess up, you would yell "do-over!"
As adults we get a do-over every day called "tomorrow." If you're lucky you get a tomorrow every day. You get this amazing gift, a second chance, another shot, to be a better human being. Every morning at 12 am, or 5am or 3pm when ever your tomorrow starts, you have another opportunity to be a better human being for yourself, for your family, for this planet.